Just received an email today from EHarmony (which I do not participate in, because they are both straight AND narrow — only allowing members who are men looking for women or women looking for men) with the following headline, “What’s the Best Way to be More Interesting?”
Whaaat? Tell me they don’t get that question from their members, please… Here’s the earth-shattering advice they have to offer:
“It’s true: You will boost your odds of finding a fantastic partner if you become convinced deep down that you have a lot to offer. You bring many assets and attributes to a potential relationship, and you’ll radiate that fact when you regularly remind yourself of your best qualities. To move forward with confidence, believe the best about yourself and your future.”
Really? Is this news to anyone in the dating pool? Actually, is this news to anyone who’s ever watched Oprah?? (Or Dr. Phil, or even America’s Next Top Model?) WTH? Not much of a value add to their members or prospective members, if you ask me.
But seriously, if EHarmony wanted to be really helpful, they could send some articles about how to use social media while dating.
You know, like how to get the people that email incessantly to actually get off the dime and ask someone out; or how it’s not a real relationship if it only happens over text and IM.
Despite the immediacy and ubiquity of these methods of communication — there is no substitute for an actual phone conversation or even better, a face to face meeting.
I know it seems cool to have a text or sext pal, but really, let’s just be brave and get out there in person!
So, if you’re single, do something brave today — ask someone out for an honest to goodness date. Most likely they’ll say yes, and even if it goes badly, you’ll have an awesome story to tell at your next cocktail party.